Don t worry about the things you can t control
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Why You Shouldn’t Worry About the Things You Can’t Control
I once worked with the head copywriter of an advertising firm who found it difficult not to worry about the financial health of her company—how many clients account services was landing, what kind of designs the art department was producing, whether her boss would start laying people off. Once she realized that each of these things was well outside of her control, and that worrying about them only led to heightened levels of stress, she was able to shift her focus toward fixing what was troubling her in her job, her workplace, and in many ways her life. As it often happens, she was surprised to see how much of her daily life fell into the former column. She managed a team of eight people, all talented copywriters who looked to her for instruction and guidance. She was in charge of leading the creative meetings that brainstormed ideas for each client. We set the following goal: to improve only the copy that she herself wrote. Recommitting herself to this manageable goal not only helped her focus her energies on something she could handle, but the best part was that, once her own performance improved, her circle of influence really did expand.
Because letting go of control goes directly against our modernized, industrialized way of living — we are go-getters, doers, architects of our destiny. So allowing things to happen was not in my DNA. I had never been one to sit back and passively let go of control. Over the years, however, my perspective has shifted. And if we allow these thoughts and cravings to dwell in our minds, they will succeed in robbing us of peace, joy, and ultimately our lives. We will think ourselves into deep heartache and even depression. We can decide how we spend our time right now, whom we socialize with — whom we share our lives with.