What to say to someone whos loved one is dying
Lashana L. Duvall (Author of Diary of a Strong Black Woman)
What To Say (and Not Say) When Someone Dies or Suffers a Tragedy
When someone you care about is grieving after a loss, it can be difficult to know what to say or do. The bereaved struggle with many intense and painful emotions, including depression, anger, guilt, and profound sadness. Often, they also feel isolated and alone in their grief, since the intense pain and difficult emotions can make people uncomfortable about offering support.
Lashana L. Duvall
10 Best Things to Say to Someone in Grief
The irony is that all such conversations ask of us, ultimately, is what people appreciate hearing at any time of life: words of candor, reassurance, and love. Below is a guide on what to say to someone who is dying because sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we may not know what to do or say that will be of the greatest comfort to the person who is dying. We may not even know how to mentally prepare for conversations with a dying family member. First, the person who is dying usually knows that he or she is dying, and the secret is not to be afraid of that or to run away from it. If the person talks about impending death either directly or indirectly through metaphor, go along. How are you feeling? The dying often use symbolic language that indicates preparation for an imminent journey or change, Callanan says.
A grieving person may say one of the worst ones about themselves and it's OK. Aren't you over him yet, he has been dead for awhile now When in the position of wanting to help a friend or loved one in grief, often times our first desire is to try to I have a family member or friend who may not be grieving right or enough.
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How to support someone who’s grieving?
We were trying to comfort. Whereas an acquaintance saying it may not feel good. You would also not want to say to someone, you are in the stages of grief. While some of these things to say have been helpful to some people, the way in which they are often said has the exact opposite effect than what was originally intended. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had the right words, just know I care. You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers.
For caregivers, figuring out how to speak to a parent, senior loved one or someone who is dying can be both challenging and emotionally-wrenching. Fortunately, there are things you can say that will help your loved one maintain dignity and respect during their final days. For a family caregiver, the difficulties can be innumerable, between coping with the details of end-of-life care while also dealing with our own grief. Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we may not know what to do or say to be the greatest comfort to a loved one who is dying. You may feel uncomfortable, but your loved one needs you.